KNOWING HE IS THE ONE
Before I got married, I
dated a few fine men that pretty much seemed serious. However, the moment I
thought about spending the rest of my life with the person, fear gripped me and
this made me call it quits for the relationship. I did not like the fact that I
was disappointing someone, but I knew it wasn’t fair for me to keep the
relationship going for months knowing well that I wouldn’t commit to them or be
happy if we got married. Like the saying goes, bad news is not like wine, it
doesn’t get better with time. So I always came clean as early as I possibly
could on my feelings about someone and the relationship. The cliché statement
'sorry, we can only be friends, always came in handy'
When I met my
husband at the end of 2008, he told me so much about himself on our second
date some of it not being pleasant. Strange thing is this did not create any
anxiety within me like I think it should have. On the third date which was
within the same week, he told me that he had made up his mind and wanted to
marry me. This is the point at which I fled....too much pressure. How does
someone tell you abut a not so rosy past, say they have made up their mind that
they want to marry you in just two days and that doesn't freak you out? I
hardly knew this guy. He could be hiding something for all I know, that is why
he wants to put a ring on it before I figure him out.
No I actually didn’t
flee. I had so much peace about the possibility of us getting married that the
thought warmed up my heart. I knew in that moment that he was the one I wanted
to spend the rest of my life with. The 'Peace' I felt about us getting married
and spending the rest of our lives together was confirmation to me that 'He is
the one'.
One of my favourite
scriptures has since been Philippians 4:6-7 (ESV) Do not be anxious about
anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving,
present your requests to God. And the Peace of God which transcends all
understanding will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
If you don't have peace about that relationship, drop it before you walk down the aisle and believe God for a relationship in which you will be happy and feel secure.
#marriageisGodsidea
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