Mystery Man turned Mr Right
In 2007 after I had come out of a bad relationship, I decided
to give dating a break. I had dated a couple of guys before but called the
relationships off prematurely all of them in less than a year except one. This
was because something within me didn’t feel right every time I imagined that
person proposing to me. It didn’t understand why I suddenly lost my peace at
the thought of spending the rest of my life with someone I had agreed to date.
The hardest part was breaking off the relationship and having to explain this
to someone. I mean I didn’t understand it, how was I supposed to explain it?
It would have been so much easier if I had something to
point out. But it was more about how I
felt and not what the other person had done. The best explanation I could find
was ‘It is me, it has nothing to do with you’ which I now know was a hated or
detested phrase. And yes I also used the famous line ‘I think we can only be
friends’.
One day in 2008, in the midst of my busy work schedule, I received
a call from an unknown caller who turned out to be my stalker for the day. Mystery
man called, texted, googled about me and met me all in one day of hearing about
me. I got to find out that day that he had gotten my number from a friend of
mine who had requested him not to call me until she calls me. He surprisingly couldn’t
contain himself so he called me before I was alerted. With nothing to say, I guess, he asked that I
let him call me back later (why didn’t you just call later then?).
Our first meet up lasted one hour as he had to dash off for
a family dinner. He did most of the talking in that time which I found weird
but interesting. Since I had no expectations and was not looking to impress,
that worked just fine for me after a long busy day. We had a second to balance out the conversation
as per his request. By the third coffee which was on the third day, he had told
me the good and the ugly about himself and then he told me his intentions to
marry me. My stalker was moving too fast for me, but instead of freaking out, I
was enjoying it. His honesty, openness and confidence in God gave me a desire
to keep around him. Long story short, we started dating three days later and
got married shortly after a year.
The defining feeling for me, was that I had peace about him.
My heart was at peace with the thought of spending the rest of my life with
this three day old friend. That is when I realized that God had spoken to me
through ‘peace’.
For he had given me ‘Peace that passes human understanding.
So to someone out there who may be wondering how do I know
if he is the right person? Ask yourself, what is God saying about it? Do you
have peace about it?
