Vasta N. Kamara

Mystery Man turned Mr Right

In 2007 after I had come out of a bad relationship, I decided to give dating a break. I had dated a couple of guys before but called the relationships off prematurely all of them in less than a year except one. This was because something within me didn’t feel right every time I imagined that person proposing to me. It didn’t understand why I suddenly lost my peace at the thought of spending the rest of my life with someone I had agreed to date. The hardest part was breaking off the relationship and having to explain this to someone. I mean I didn’t understand it, how was I supposed to explain it?

It would have been so much easier if I had something to point out.  But it was more about how I felt and not what the other person had done. The best explanation I could find was ‘It is me, it has nothing to do with you’ which I now know was a hated or detested phrase. And yes I also used the famous line ‘I think we can only be friends’.

One day in 2008, in the midst of my busy work schedule, I received a call from an unknown caller who turned out to be my stalker for the day. Mystery man called, texted, googled about me and met me all in one day of hearing about me. I got to find out that day that he had gotten my number from a friend of mine who had requested him not to call me until she calls me. He surprisingly couldn’t contain himself so he called me before I was alerted.  With nothing to say, I guess, he asked that I let him call me back later (why didn’t you just call later then?).

Our first meet up lasted one hour as he had to dash off for a family dinner. He did most of the talking in that time which I found weird but interesting. Since I had no expectations and was not looking to impress, that worked just fine for me after a long busy day.  We had a second to balance out the conversation as per his request. By the third coffee which was on the third day, he had told me the good and the ugly about himself and then he told me his intentions to marry me. My stalker was moving too fast for me, but instead of freaking out, I was enjoying it. His honesty, openness and confidence in God gave me a desire to keep around him. Long story short, we started dating three days later and got married shortly after a year.

The defining feeling for me, was that I had peace about him. My heart was at peace with the thought of spending the rest of my life with this three day old friend. That is when I realized that God had spoken to me through ‘peace’.

For he had given me ‘Peace that passes human understanding.

So to someone out there who may be wondering how do I know if he is the right person? Ask yourself, what is God saying about it? Do you have peace about it?